ABOUT
US
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Authentic Mentoring for Young People Who Feel Misunderstood
Our Story
Many of the young people we work with feel anxious, overwhelmed, and misunderstood.
They often process the world differently.
And too often, that difference is judged rather than understood.
Over time, this can lead to low self-esteem, school disengagement, social withdrawal, and strained family relationships.
But young people who experience the world differently should not be punished or suffer judgement simply because they process life in their own unique way.
They deserve to feel safe.
They deserve to feel accepted.
They deserve to belong.
Our Mission:
To enhance the quality of life for young people and their loved ones through authentic, trusting relationship-building.
A world where every young person experiences positive change and thrives through trust, understanding, and strong connections with mentors, families, and communities. We aspire to empower young people to reach their full potential and create lasting, meaningful impact in their lives.
Our Vision:
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How We Help
Our Approach
At Lean On Me Mentors, we believe meaningful change begins with relationships.
Our approach is simple:
1. Connect
We meet the young person where they are — without judgement.
2. Build Trust
Through consistency, calmness, and reliability, we create psychological safety.
3. Unlock Strengths
We focus on strengths and interests, helping young people build confidence, self-belief, and resilience.
When a young person feels understood, everything begins to change
Through consistent mentoring and collaboration with families, schools, and professionals, we regularly see:
• Increased school attendance and engagement
• Improved relationships with peers and teachers
• Reduced conflict and disciplinary action
• Greater emotional regulation
• Increased confidence and self-belief
Parents have shared that their sons have gone from barely attending school to attending nearly full-time; re-engaged, motivated, and rebuilding friendships.
These changes are not accidental.
They are the result of trust-based mentoring and genuine connection.
The Outcomes We See
Why Lean On Me Mentors?
Founder Ross Siljeur discovered his life’s work through recognising a simple truth: when someone feels unseen or judged long enough, it impacts how they see themselves.
Having grown up in a society shaped by segregation, Ross understands what it means to feel different, misinterpreted, or less than. That lived experience fuels a deep commitment to ensuring young people never internalise the belief that something is “wrong” with them.
Since beginning this work, Ross has mentored more than 20 young boys and has been requested by multiple families to continue mentoring beyond Ministry-funded contracts.
Lean On Me Mentors is currently at capacity — a reflection of the demand for consistent, relationship-based support.
Integrity
Our Values...
I.C.A.R.E
We act with honesty, transparency, and consistency, building trust through every interaction with the young people and families we support.
Integrity
We believe in working together with parents, caregivers, educators, and professionals to create a connected, holistic network of support around each young person.
Collaboration
We recognise that every young person’s journey is unique, so we tailor our mentoring approach to meet individual needs and encourage meaningful growth.
Adaptability
We value every person’s story and experiences, treating everyone with dignity, kindness, and genuine respect.
Respect
We listen with care and understanding, showing compassion in every moment to ensure each young person feels heard, valued, and supported.
Respect
Empathy
Partner With Us
If you are a parent, school, or professional seeking meaningful mentoring support for a young person, we invite you to connect with us.
Because when a young person feels understood, their confidence grows.
When confidence grows, relationships improve.
And when relationships improve, futures change.
THE TEAM
Meet Our Mentors
Ross Siljeur
Ko Ross Siljeur toku ingoa
No te tonga o Awherika ahau
Ko Edward Siljeur raua ko Eleanor Vigus oku matua
Ko Adele Siljeur toku hoa rangatira
tokotoru a maua tamahine
Ko Tara, ko Shelby ratou ko Leah
I hunuku mai matou ki Aotearoa i te tau
kotahi mano e iwa rau, e iwa tekau ma waru
Ko Tamaki Makaurau to matou wahi noho
No reira e tika ana kia mihia nga pae maunga
nga rau awa awa, nga marae maha
Ngati Whatua ki Orakei, e mihi ana.
No reira tena koutou, tena koutou, tena koutou katoa
My name is Ross Siljeur
I am from South Africa
My parents are Edward Siljeur and Eleanor Vigus
My wife is Adele Siljeur
We have three daughters, Tara, Shelby and Leah
We migrated to New Zealand in 1998
Auckland is our place of residence.
Therefore, it is right that we acknowledge the many mountain ranges, the numerous rivers, and the many marae.
We acknowledge Ngāti Whātua of Ōrākei.
Therefore, greetings, greetings, greetings to you all.
